Have you ever dated a woman with a toxic friend? It’s quite possibly worse than dating a toxic partner because no matter what you do, you’ll never win. The reason for that is you’re never present for the conversations that sway opinion. When a woman has a toxic friend, Girl’s Night should be your biggest nightmare.
A Personal Story
I once dated a beautiful woman who I clicked with on nearly every level. For the few lifestyle choices we didn’t click on, it really didn’t matter because we communicated well and the topics weren’t deal breakers.
This girlfriend of mine had a friend that made endless poor life choices and was miserable alone as a single mom.
I noticed changes in my girlfriend’s mood whenever she would see me after visiting her friend. They were subtle at first but as time went on, the changes became more prevalent.
She questioned me more in ways that I found inexcusable. She would say things that I had never heard her say before, always suspicious.
“Where were you?” A question with no acceptable answer.
“Who is she?” Condescension.
Then, I met the friend. She had bitter eyes and a condescending tone. As the day wore on I realized this friend was merely trying to bring my girlfriend down to her level.
She was miserable and misery loves company.
Eventually, as I fought against the friend’s “advice” I realized I was in a losing battle. This girl had a 15 year relationship with my girlfriend and I had only been around for a few months.
What started out as a great relationship, with her inter-mingling with my friends, and us talking about our differences turned into a sour relationship, her questioning my friends, and walls between us.
The toxic friend lied, insinuated, and gas lit my girlfriend until there was nothing left.
Don’t Let It Happen to You
I refuse to get serious about any relationship until I meet the woman’s closest friends. I need to know if there is a toxic friend in the mix. If there is, I try my best to ingratiate myself to her but if I can’t, I leave.
I know, it sounds like giving up. But honestly, there are plenty of women out there who recognize a toxic friend and cut them off before they do damage. That’s part of being a secure woman; expelling toxic relationships.
I highly recommend that you take this step as well; meet the friends before getting serious.
Otherwise, you can be fighting a losing battle from day one. Who has time for that?
Don’t let misery bring you into the company.
